Just like clothes, people change every single day. Just like clothes, we choose what’s comfortable, what’s trendy, what’s cool, what’s fancy—it depends. We wear thick fabric when it’s raining or when it’s cold. We wear the thin ones when it’s hot—it depends. Just like clothes, people are changing based on how the world rotates. It depends on the mood and the weather. But is changing a bad thing?
People are always asking for time and space. It’s okay to sometimes, somehow detach ourselves to others. I understand. There’s nothing wrong if you’d like to focus on yourself, heal your own wounds and such. There’s nothing wrong with that. But when is the right time to adjust the gap and distance?
We overthink. We are all dreamers, after all. The past, the present and the future, we can think of them all in one blink. We don’t care if it’s making any sense but we’re waiting for the clock to strike 11:11. We’re throwing coins if there’s a well or a fountain. When we kneel, we ask for something. When we close our eyes, we’re dreaming for something. There’s a well in every sigh. But are you doing something to make it happen?
Growing up is such a pain in the ass, I know. It sucks. But growing up is not the problem. Mid-life crisis is not the problem. Puberty is not the problem. To be honest, we’re just lost. We’re all lost. Life is just hard to understand. But since we’re still alive, we need to understand each and every shits the world could give. Unfortunately, to be able to live.
Changing is not a bad thing. That means you’re still growing. You keep on exploring and discovering more of yourself, the people around you and the world. It’s actually scary when you’re not changing at all—because dead people don’t change at all. Well, physically they do. You just have to accept and embrace every changes within.
I don’t know when is the right time to adjust the gap and distance. But the only thing I know is if you keep on building walls, how can you understand what’s up on the other side? I mean, it’s okay to comfort yourself, but don’t close doors to those who wants to be there for you, too. Don’t be afraid to let them in. We only live once. How can you keep up if the time’s already up?
Make it happen. Do it now. If time is running, then people are aging. If now isn’t the right time, then when? If you can’t sleep, if you can’t stop thinking about it, if it is still bothering you, if it’s making you sad, then it hurts. It affects you. You can’t ignore and just let things go. But you know what? It is better to get hurt sometimes, than to regret everything—every single time. Don’t just wish and ask for it. Do something to get it. Do something for it.
Life is annoying. But remember; you’re stronger than you thought. You’re a warrior and you can’t lose your fight. Don’t let anyone or anything to destroy you—even your own emotions. We’re still young. Enjoy life as long as you’re still alive. Sometimes, you just have to pause, take a break and breathe. I’m just 18. What do I know about life? Well, I’m not sure. But I think, that’s how life works.
“Growing up is not the problem, forgetting is.”
The Little Prince, 2015 ✨
“Because that’s what happens in life, you grow up, everyone moves on, you’re just learning, you stay true to yourself. Changing isn’t a bad thing, it never was. But at the end of the day, you know? You’re the same person. And, and where your heart is—-that doesn’t change.”
Shawn Mendes, Understand (Illuminate Album, 2016) 🍁